Love at first sight has been scathed at a lot. Many people thought there is no chance of getting that love just because you saw this person once and decided you would pursue this person.
The only person I know that has this was my English teacher in sophomore year high school, telling us her story about her and her husband, saying that this happened to her. They met on a cruise I think it was some kind of boat or was it a party and according to her, her husband fell for her, and shortly after that they began dating.
I do think this is rare and not impossible. Just because it didn't happen to many people doesn't make it stupid. There are crazy love stories after all.
What I do want to point out is to see the red flags. If you see these red flags as flags, then well that's bad obviously.
Understandably, even when people like to say love at first sight is not realistic, they do certainly like the romance of it. Even dating for some time after knowing them for a bit is still romantic in some cases. This is why I found it hilarious for all of Frozen's decrying of tropes - lampshading is not the same as actively examining and Frozen failed at self-reflection a lot - Kristoff and Anna still got married after not too long, given they looked like they barely aged.
Okay, so I'm just gonna give ya a scenario that has no names so you can see this either coupling you want. This is all fiction.
A person relished on being single and worked in an industry known for falsity, jading them to actually meet someone true. In fact, the person and their friends knew just how much they liked their freedom.
One day, they met someone serendipitously on what was a normal day out of work. Yet this person doesn't seem to be like the other people you met on the job daily. Instead, they are natural and the most beautiful person you ever met. On that day, you helped them win a game that your friends on the scene took a brief note with. You couldn't keep glancing at them and when they made a gesture, it made an impact on how you perceived flirting.
However, the meeting was too short and you barely interact and the person only has a number given to them by a friend of theirs, amused by your questions about getting their number. Meeting them again in the same industry would be slim.
However, a year later, you met again and this time, you won't let this chance escape. You swooped in and finally took the opportunity.
And it's all worth it. You found the most caring and wonderful person you ever met, the love of your life, someone willing to supports and trust you, someone who admires you just as you admires, trusts, and supports them. Someone who shares the same humor as you do, someone who is willing to learn from you just as you are willing to learn from them.
And it was it. You knew this was love. You knew now you never recovered from the lightning strike when you met them the first time and now they're here, loving you as much as you love them. You knew this was love at first sight.
I took liberties with this since I'm trying not to give too many details. It may or may not happen. It could be an entertainment or wedding industry because I mention an industry being stale and lack trueness while being somewhat big.
This is partly an example of good love at first sight and that it could happen.
As I said in other posts before this, you
- must know who you are as a person
- what you want in a person
- sheer connection, be it humor, ideals, philosophy, etc.
You might even have all the inner similarities despite outside appearances and no overlapping hobbies.
This is the point of love. The realness of the person, their flaws, and beauties are what you like about them.
Just liking the same thing does not make it love. All you have in common is something you like say weird tastes in music. Seriously, join a club and if somehow you met the person you truly love there, then that's all the better. The point of clubs is to bring together people with similar interests so to say that's a start for any romantic relationship is dumb. It's just one commonality that could start a friendship at first.
Do you know this person? Do you try to know this person?
There are many different love stories in this world. Some people met by going to parties or bars, some by their friends introducing each other, some by happenstance. There are so many different stories with their own experiences together.
Hell, in one compelling love story in Galavant, the two most murderous villains actually fall in love. They actually fell for each other because they actually got to know each other. The guy saw her in her most vulnerable state and heard her story of Jenny yet he saw her do stuff like ordering executions and willing to begin a war for him, even planning to go vaca together, ziplining. He sees her as simply Madalena while she herself learned how to grapple with her emotions she never tried to grasp. It's seriously romantic when he bought her a pair of earrings with her tormentors' ears still attached. That fits them well since Madalena absolutely loves the Bonnie and Clyde angle and the extra helpings of murder and torture.
That would not be romantic elsewhere but since this is the murderous couple. Many fans actually liked this couple out of the entire canon couples simply for just how compelling it is.
Then there are the crazier love stories. People find love in reality tv, a genre people trashed as unrealistic and producer-driven drama.
The more successful couples from Bachelor Nation met during the filming and have to explicitly tell skeptics their love is real. Successful couples have to deal with a lot of flack just because they fell in love in a reality show, a reality show that doesn't have the best results for long-lasting relationships. Just because Trista Rehn managed to find love on her second shot in the Bachelor as the first Bachelorette does not mean the next Bachelorette managed to find it. Just because Sean Lowe managed to find love does not mean his other Bachelors did. Really, I think a cast full of people looking for love and mature in what kind of partner they want is the way to go for the best Bachelor combination. This is why Sean Lowe and Rachel Lindsay's seasons are hailed as one of the best as the audience does get to see the real love story from real people who get on the show for love and did find it.
The only thing I have against Bachelor Nation is that as a reality TV, they have to have producer-driven things and they will edit people into archetypes that aren't them. Right now, the editing is making Clare out to be a villain and Dale doesn't get many edits beyond being the Spouse Material; I don't even think Clare was in charge of the strip dodgeball when in other dates we see in Bachelorette, we do see the men play sports in jerseys. Bachelor Nation is known for the lust and sex but for the love of Godoka, not even the editing and the production team makes the people show differently from how they are in real life except when their actions kept pointing in a bad direction like Juan Pablo's lack of reaction to women who point out rightly he doesn't seem to know them, promise the moon the day before and break it the day after. While I do find the alpha men fighting hilarious since it does seem so silly, true love stories like Rachel and Bryan, Sean and Catherine, Desiree and Chris, Trista and Ryan fall to the wayside. It's fascinating to see couples fall in love in relatively real-time. Even when their more private stuff was offscreen, we can see their love growing.
Lauren and Cameron from LiB show that the experiment does work but only if they are willing to make it work as a couple. Like Bachelor couples, it is possible to find love in the weirdest of circumstances. Especially when people really chose to do reality shows just to find love. And usually, that does bring good romance especially on reality tv where two real people fall in love, connect, and chose to make it work. That's the reason why Bachelor Nation success stories captivate so much and often referred to as the best seasons. While reality tv is frequently trashed and viewed as guilty pleasures, the true love stories in reality tv can really stave off the reality tv tropes.
Love at first sight is rare but doesn't make it impossible. Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black's story was this apparently, not that I don't believe them, but because it's their testimony.
Then there are how long a relationship had been and age gaps. Again, Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black have a twenty or so year difference. I actually think Sehun and his lover have a similar age gap. Compared to something like Wang Yibo and Xiao Zhan, they only have a basic six-year difference. Okay, I'm a clown on that last one but the point still stands, there is an age difference.
But how power dynamics will depend on them and how they will seek it out. Power deferential is still a thing but one must realize not all relationships can be generalized into this category. Anyone would want a relationship of equals and the treatment of such.
Besides, I worry more about the flags. Seeing red flags as just flags is obviously a bad thing. So one must not be rose-colored about love when things like jealousy that can be a breaking point for a lot of people - I know people who broke up precisely because of jealousy. So really things must be taken into consideration and how it could be resolved.
Short relationships with sudden marriage proposals can happen. Ned Fulmer and his wife Ariel had dated for a mere nine months before proposing and everyone knows how well this couple turned out, considering Ned is still in his 'my wife and kids' phase even if he doesn't mention it often as he used to. Even to his friends, he's known as the married one and they couldn't see him as anything else other than a husband. Fans joked he came out of the womb as a husband.
Ned insists it's a love at first sight story when his wife argues the opposite that he went talking to her friend instead for several hours and only chatted her up a little while after. She thought he was a weird guy at first, coming to a party with a half bottle of tequila. It's pretty funny, actually, for all of how sweet and relationship goals Ned and Ariel are, their first meeting and impression don't quite match up as what Ned kept on saying it is. Because life isn't a romcom. By the way, I am certain that he already planned grand things for her on special days.
But not every whirlwind romance will end up happily like Ned and Ariel from many factors.
And everybody knows what a failed relationship looks like from its various incarnations from its benevolent to the malevolent. Again, seeing red flags as simply flags is bad.
Love is something beautiful and I like hearing real love stories. There aren't epics or have drawn-out miscommunications but real stories with people not knowing if their crush likes them or not, trying to interpret signs, testing each other, getting to know each other.
And really that makes things like seeing the more CQL BTS released, the more we get the picture of how BJYXSZD and their love story occurred.
I do think fate pushed them together but CQL auditions were the last straw for Web to finally establish a romantic connection.
I don't hate romcoms or romance stories. I love Pride and Prejudice and the better seasons of Bachelor and Bachelorette that ended in a happy ending. Why else do you think I cheered mentally when I see the couples are still together till this day, fighting the odds?
I like the idea of fate. BJYX kept me up at night because it has to be fate and lots of things coincides for them.
In the same manner, BTS is basically lightning in a bottle. If my hunch about Taekook is correct, then it’s even more fateful. There are odd coincidences with the number 7, either intentionally invoked or eerie. Considering BTS had the DNA song, they must really believe in fate at least to some extent. Suga is prone to making predictions that even jokes would come true.
I’m sure there are other fateful encounters in the world like the Japanese line of Twice becoming best friends and in the same group after Momo was eliminated but bought back because JYP and the board knew she’s best for the group. Besides, it’s JYP making the final decisions so if Momo is going, she’s going.
I’m not going all philosophical since I’m not quite read on the topic. It could just be coincidences but at the same time too eerie. But still maybe fate does exist, just know where to look for it.
